It was really sweet to find someone who was committed from the get-go.
I ended up losing another 75 pounds and he lost another 150 before we eventually got married.
But you can't really make assumptions about someone's health based on one meal or one date together.
Maybe they saved an extra deficit to be able to have dinner with you in the first place, but you have no way of knowing that without having a conversation.
Plus, the guys I meet always want to go out and drink a ton of beer and eat burgers and I'm not 100% comfortable being like "HEY I' M A RECOVERING FAT CHICK I CAN' T DO THIS TWICE A WEEK! Though honestly I've started just stating it the moment I order food, when I get the strangest looks for getting a small appetizer in place of dinner. I've got pictures, but I can see you want to retain the will to eat."There are plenty of dating options that don't involve the calories, expense, or full on time commitment of having a meal together.I started online dating after having only lost about 20 pounds out of a total of 120 I needed to lose.I put a disclaimer in my profile saying that while I knew I objectively looked unhealthy, I was committed to my new lifestyle, and that I wanted someone who felt as equally passionate and committed to a healthy lifestyle as I did.I should probably look into a side business walking dogs.. there's a million things you can do on a date, honestly sitting in front of someone for 45 minutes drives me insane with anxiety, what if the food sucks? Work on your conversation skills, make friends, see how many of the people you date WANT TO be around you, find new hobbies, learn what turns you off/on and then get more serious about it when you're feeling comfortable in your body. A lot of commentors are suggesting different kinds of dates, but as someone who recently spent a LOT of time in the dating world, that's just now how online dating works these days. It's a numbers game.most daters just want to keep things simple to start with.Be the guy that doesn't just fall back on a dinner date. or have you gone to two palm readers on the same night and see how it differs? Just be glad you don't have the dating pool I'm looking at in my area. Totally understand what you're going through though.From there, it's a progressive downhill trend due to the bizarre dating pool I seem to be facing.