But you're like, turn up the volume on your phone just in case you're in the other room when they write to you?
I asked Meredith Golden, a dating expert who actually takes over her clients' dating apps and messages for them up until the first date (yes, she lands dates — she knows what she's talking about).
Or, honestly, do whatever feels most natural to you — with the right person, none of these "rules" really matter.
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If I don’t reply to your message once, it is possible it just got lost in the shuffle. Also, negative energy bums me out and I have no use for it in my love life, thanks.
For all they know, you could be trying out that new tapas place with your best friends, or even on a date with some other suitor.
That five-minute buffer time gives you a hint of mystery.
The one element that remains crystal clear in my memory is waiting several long, torturous, panicky minutes to text my crush back so I didn't look too interested, because I figured that looking eager would be the kiss of death.
The truth is that if a person wants to hear what you have to say, they won't think you're a loser for saying it sooner rather than later.
"They should get a taste of your personality and be intrigued enough to ask you to meet," Golden says.