Dating Doctor Dementia, who by all objective measures was a total screw-up himself, I wondered even more strongly what I was going to do to ruin the relationship.
When Overly Frank dumped me last month in an IHOP in Boystown at in the morning (pathetic on the face of it, I know), I could barely hear his words over the veritable and never-ending scream of my inner failure-voice. But talking to him helped me see how much I’d given into to my classically low expectations, and how that added unnecessary, ADHD-infused friction into our relationship.
It could mean that he's not quite ready to be really serious and exclusive, but I think that is a good thing after only a few weeks.
After a few months, you can talk about it, but for now, don't sweat it at all.
So in case your friend ever talks about their problems with ADD around you, here are 10 things you should never say to them. This is true, especially with young boys with helicopter parents who think that there is something wrong with their kid after a few outbursts in class.
But when it gets to a point where it is debilitating and is having an incredibly negative impact on getting basic tasks done on a regular basis for years and years with no end in sight, then I’ll listen to you. Stop saying you have ADD just because you forgot to text your friend back or whatever.And there's no reason to use facebook to "stay in touch." You're dating - pick up the phone or at the worst send a text or email.I have ADD (or, inattentive ADHD as medical professionals are starting to call it) and I’ve never exactly made much of a secret about it. 6) Popping pills won’t solve your problems/Medicine should solve it, right? But like just about everything in the realm of mental health, ADD is misunderstood. I’ve had a lot of well meaning but straight up ignorant comments thrown my way about it. One of my classmates in college actually said this to me and I gave her such a dirty look. Okay, there are people who are wrongly diagnosed with ADD/ADHD. Well, it’s not like I’ve had very much time to do that anyway since I wasn’t officially diagnosed until I was 21-years-old. Taking medication or not is a personal choice, but it’s never a cure-all!