Not every work created by a woman goes against this grain, obviously, since we’re all swimming in the same cultural soup. Check things off, or join a social site like Goodreads.And hopefully you already seek out and enjoy works by women — I don’t want to insult you by saying that you don’t or that you are unaware! Reason #2: It will be fun and you’ll encounter some really good stuff you might not have sought out otherwise.A few years ago a I saw a very beautifully made and very personal student film about a lonely and shy young man who has insomnia so he walks around downtown late at night, visiting a diner where he has a crush on the waitress, and otherwise encountering women who all don’t notice him or outright reject him.It was beautifully shot and scored and acted, but I’m not sure that what’s stayed with me is what the filmmaker wanted to stay with me, which is that every single woman that the protagonist ran into in this world was young, pretty, white, able-bodied, straight, and assumed to be potentially dateable.So I’m a guy, 20 years old and totally devoid of any form of romantic relationship. I’ve never so much as held hands with a member of the opposite sex, never mind anything else.I’m getting incredibly lonely and yes before you say it, I did behave like a nice guy tm once and just once.Even though the story took place downtown in a major city, there were no other women in the frame, though the character did frequently interact with men of all ages & walks of life. You say that not many people are interested in your passions.This is true of the Hollywood world, too, where there aren’t even enough women in crowd scenes. You need shy people who are trying to connect with each other and the sexiest/awkwardest dance to The Commodores’ Night Shift in recorded history. Have you looked all around your university community, or your dorm, or your study program?
It’s a pattern of behavior, not a permanent designation or identity.
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We all grow up on stories and messages where men go out and do great deeds and they rescue and/or win the love of women. These are the messages you are swimming in, and they are affecting your life.
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Before all that happened, I was an incredible jerk, an arrogant piece of shit with an intellect to match and zero attachments to anyone.